hi esperanza,

my boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately  i don’t know what it is but when we r together we are ok at first and then i want to go home and he gets all upset so i stay and then i get in trouble cuz im late but when i mention it to him he gets mad 

what should i do?

Hey ! I’m glad you reached out for some advice and in my personal opinion, I think you should sit down and talk with your boyfriend so you guys can communicate and you can tell him how you feel and express your emotions to him. You also need to let him know that you are getting in trouble for staying too late and he needs to understand you. It is gonna be hard sometimes to have communication with him when he just wants to be with you and not consider your curfew. And about the fights, you guys both have to communicate and see what is making you guys fight so often. See what is affecting you and find ways to make your relationship smoother. However, I also see that by what you’re telling me it sounds like he might be manipulative and toxic.  It would be nice to know why he is acting this way and what is making him feel so mad that you leave early when you need to because if you don’t you get in trouble. In my personal opinion, it doesn’t sound so healthy that he is doing that. My boyfriend and I hang out and go to each other’s house but when he leaves we do feel a bit upset because we don’t see each other often but we don’t make each other feel bad for leaving. I’m just saying that it sounds manipulative on his part. Have a moment to think about whether this boy is the right one. I hope my advice can help you and just know that relationships will have ups and downs and you guys both need to work your relationship out. But I hope that it goes well for you and be patient!

Sincerely

Esperanza

Hey Esperanza,

I’m meeting my girlfriend’s parents for the first time.  What should I do?  Should I bring them something?  

Roberto

Hey! I’m glad you reached out to me for some advice. Well first, I am so excited for you to meet your girlfriend’s parents! I know it can be nerve wrecking and scary but I know you will do great as long as you show up looking nice and clean. Make sure to be respectful and have manners at all times and also don’t be different, act like yourself and keep your head up. Honestly you don’t have to take something but if you are planning to I would say take a desert or snack that most people would enjoy for example some nice cookies but not like a generic brand, try to make it look nice in a good container and find some good cookies. And as for what else to bring, maybe bring some nice flowers for the mom just so you can give that nice impression and a small gift will go a long way. Remember to keep your head up and don’t overthink and it will be fine. I hope my advice could help you for that big day and my examples can help.( By the way this is so cute that you asked for advice thank you again)

Sincerely,

Esperanza