hi esperanza,

Valentines is coming up and i don’t know if i want to give my bf anything.  I don’t know if i even want to be in this relationship.  He’s a nice guy but im just not feeling it.  I dont know how to let him down without hurting him.  We were friends first but i don’t kno what to do.

thanks

Jenni

Hi Jenni!

I’m so glad you reached out to me. Thank you. Well, first off it sounds like you should first think and reflect on how you feel.  I feel like the gift doesn’t matter if you are feeling such a way. If you have the thoughts of not feeling good in this relationship, I think you should be straight forward with him and communicate to him about how you feel and what will happen after. Remember being honest and communicating is the only way for him to know what you actually feel and, unfortunately, he will feel hurt or sad because it’s just how things will be so there is really no way to stop that, especially during this time. But being honest and saying what you feel is very important for him to know that you aren’t being dishonest. You should speak to him soon.

Remember my advice comes from experience and you choose to take it or not. There will always be time for love and you should definitely find what makes you happy even if it’s with him or not with him. Thank you again for reaching out and I hope my advice helps you and don’t give up. Love is always there!

Sincerely Esperanza:)