In today’s world the definition of independence has evolved. Independence isn’t just moving out of your parent’s house or even paying your own bills. It’s about being self-reliant, being emotionally mature, and the fact that you can make your own decisions that align with your values as a person. Independence for me is a tricky subject, I know that I am independent due to the fact that I had to be self-reliant at a young age.
As people grow, they learn to become more independent and step away from the comfort of their parents arms. Many students tend to have to become independent at a young age because they have other people that rely on them, whether it’s younger siblings, parents that don’t speak English and need translations, etc. Personally I am one of those students, as an older sister I had to take care of my younger sister at a young age while my mom worked. I would feed her, change her, put her to sleep when she was still a baby even though in a way I was still a baby myself.
From my personal experience and perspective being independent tends to be a blessing and a curse. For one, I know that I can do something on my own and I can rely on the skills that I do have. On the other hand I struggle to ask for help. If I ask for help from someone else, it’ll take away from me being independent due to the fact that I have to lean on that person. It’s also a matter of ego. You don’t want to put yourself in a vulnerable situation and have it backfire on you.
Overall, independence is different in everyone’s eyes. Whilst being independent is a good attribute to have just know that it’s still okay to rely on others if you need help. Don’t be afraid to reach out.
